Creating an Exceptional You

Very few people are exceptional and one of the major traits that stand them out is Self confidence. Self confidence is an essential skill that you need to navigate through peer pressure. It protects you from being distracted and helps you pull through challenges. With good character traits, moral and religious values, you will hardly fall into the trap of distraction. You will be the master of self control.

 Self control is imperative in the development of your self esteem, confidence, identity, and ultimate success. Self control will help you have healthy respect for others. With self control, no matter the challenge you can never compromise. It is also the ability to govern oneself and enable you to control your temper, regulate your sensual appetites and passion.

Growing up as a young girl, in my family, values were taught and enforced. Faith in God and family values were everyday discussion. Religious value was the strongest influence in our lives. With self discipline, you can put off instant gratification. Below are the tips that can help you achieve an exceptional you.

• Love: This is personal caring that goes beyond oneself. It is having the habit of doing things for others.  It is simply sacrificing and caring for others. Learn to treat others the way you want to be treated. This love should go beyond your immediate and extended families.  
• Respect: This is the ability to treat others and things with value. Your manner and courtesy should speak more about who you are. Your respect should be for God, life, elders, parents, people, law, properties, and beliefs.
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  Responsibility: It is being accountable and dependable. It has everything to do with having the mind of your own in decision making; learn to be responsible for your actions at all time. As a teenage counselor, I have a particular teenager that whenever I scold him as regarding an issue, he would tell me that someone made him do it. I told him to learn to take responsibility for his actions. You should learn to do the same because when you fail, it’s you that has failed; nobody else.
• Honesty: Always be truthful and trustworthy. The inner strength of building integrity comes from being honest. Believe it or not, if honesty isn’t part of your life, you will develop the habit of lying and cheating others.  This negative attitude will become part of you and gradually you will be living a life of a lie, and believing you are being smart. 
• Courage: Is having an attitude of dealing with things that are recognized as dangerous. Courage is to believe in what you do even if nobody else does. It is facing your challenges with a brave heart.
• Sexual purity: Make it part of your goal that sexual relationship belongs only to those who are married. Endeavor to restrain yourself from sexual relationship outside marriage. Such commitment, made in the presence of God, is the best for emotional, physical and spiritual strength and growth.
• Get a positive attitude: Learn to stay positive and pursue your goal. Don’t ever get discouraged about the things around you. Don’t support the people who believe you cannot succeed in this country; the truth is that wherever you are, keep your head high and the sky will be your starting point.