Domestic violence can happen to anyone, anytime and anywhere, regardless of your size, strength and gender. Domestic violence most times occurs when a party (either husband or wife) in a relationship or marriage wants to control or dominate the other party. In most cases, one person is always the victim. But in the case of Damage, the movie produced by A-list Actress Uche Jombo and directed by Moses Inwang, we were further enlightened that domestic violence can take another turn. The victim can also be the abuser.
Damage, is a must watch advocacy movie that deals with the issues of domestic violence and its psychological effects on the victims and their children. It tells the story of a couple who are truly in love with each other. But they lived like cat and dog on a daily basis. This movie has been premiered across Nigeria, United Kingdom and soon to be in United States. Two thumbs up to Uche for the brilliant master piece. We should, like Uche, speak out against all forms of abuse to save lives for recently in Lagos, Nigeria a man killed and mutilated the body of his wife who he claimed to have loved so very much. Was she truly loved? Does love abuse? I don’t think so.
Signs of domestic abuse
There are many signs of domestic abuse that you need to watch out for in a relationship, but fear of your partner is what you shouldn’t take for granted. If you have to walk on eggshells around your partner or constantly considering what you say and do in order to avoid blow-ups, chances are your relationship is unhealthy and would become abusive in the future. Other signs that you may need to watch out for are when your partner belittles you or tries to control you, feeling of self-loathing, helplessness, and desperation.
Speak out against domestic abuse and get help
If you noticed any of these signs in your relationship, try talking to your partner, letting him or her know what bothers you. Point out the signs you have noticed. Let your partner know you will always be there to talk about any issues that is relating or leading to abuse. Reassure your partner that you will keep whatever is said or discussed secret and that you are willing to help in whatever way you can.
Remember, abusers are very good at controlling and manipulating their victims. People who have been emotionally abused or battered are depressed, drained, scared, ashamed, and confused. They are most times isolated from extended family and friends. Such person needs help to get out. Endeavor to speak out against it.
