No one is exempt from life’s trials and tribulations! Life is nothing more than different phases of circumstances and conditions. Yes, some people may get more than their share of bad times while others may get better times or circumstances than they deserve. But be careful; do not judge.
You cannot control what comes into your life, but you can choose to control how you respond to it or act. Adversity, problems and failure, no one wants them but everyone gets them. How you choose to see them or define them will have a great deal to do with how they impact your life. If you fear failure and choose not to stretch, try, experiment because of its consequences, then the fear of failure will rule your life. But if you fail and learn, then you are in charge of your life and its outcomes. Norman Vincent Peale once said, “Problems are good as long as you learn from them.”
No one likes the sting of discouragement or despair. I’ve been there, many times but I can tell you that there is something to learn in every life’s situation if you will stop seeing yourself as a victim. Rather discover the lessons and learn from them. If you are discouraged, troubled or afraid I hope you find some answers or solace in the words that follow. Don’t ever let anyone else tell you how to live your life. We all make mistakes and the people who are often good at giving advice perhaps might use some of their own counsel too.
On failure: No one escapes this life without failing. I’ve had them. You’ve had them. Everyone’s had them. The only way to avoid failure is to spend the rest of your life living in a closet away from human contact, expectations and the quest for achievement. I do not know anyone who has reached adulthood and has not had some form of adversity or failure in his or her life. Or do you know any of such? If you don’t know any, then why are we afraid of failing?
Failure has its own positive
side if you view it from another perspective. Failure gives:
1. You an opportunity to regroup.
2. It is a necessary tactic of life to help you learn?
3. It can make your successes or achievements taste good or better.
4. Gives your enemies something to talk about.
5. It forces you to take another look.
6. It tests your resolve.
7. Gives meaning to your successes.
So go out there and fail. Stretch yourself. Push harder. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
On discouragement: Discouragement defined by Webster dictionary is to be deprived of hope or confidence. Dishearten, dispirit or to be dismayed. For me, discouragement is when you feel you have no options, your back is against the wall and you don’t know which way to turn, what to do or who to turn to. It is this hole in the pit of your stomach and this fear that fills your every waking moment that says, why bother, what’s the point. Ever been there?
On problems: Late Norman Vincent Peale once said, “There is only one group of people that don’t have problems and they are all dead. Problems are a sign of life. So the more problems you have the more alive you are.” My addition to Norman’s quote would be, “if you don’t have any problems today maybe you are on the way out of here and you don’t know it yet.”
If you perceive our quotes to be some old philosophy of life, at least we are closer to speaking the truth. One thing you and I have both learned is that everyone has problems. Some have relationship problems, others financial, some career, others health, some social, others business. No one is immune to adversity in life. The key is to accept the issues, negatives, problems, situations (I don’t care what you call them) as part of the life’s process of becoming who you want to be. People destined to fail see themselves as victims and blame life for picking them. Winners, regardless of their position, status, age or circumstances see problems and adversity as a catalyst to becoming better, stronger, wiser, and more aware of the reality of their life.
Problems are not positive or negative, they are neutral. It isn’t what is happening in your life that matters it is how you choose to see it and what you do with it. Learn to see the negatives as loving teachers in your life, bringing you the opportunity to get a clearer vision of where you need attitude adjustments, improved thinking or better skills.
1. You an opportunity to regroup.
2. It is a necessary tactic of life to help you learn?
3. It can make your successes or achievements taste good or better.
4. Gives your enemies something to talk about.
5. It forces you to take another look.
6. It tests your resolve.
7. Gives meaning to your successes.
So go out there and fail. Stretch yourself. Push harder. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
On discouragement: Discouragement defined by Webster dictionary is to be deprived of hope or confidence. Dishearten, dispirit or to be dismayed. For me, discouragement is when you feel you have no options, your back is against the wall and you don’t know which way to turn, what to do or who to turn to. It is this hole in the pit of your stomach and this fear that fills your every waking moment that says, why bother, what’s the point. Ever been there?
On problems: Late Norman Vincent Peale once said, “There is only one group of people that don’t have problems and they are all dead. Problems are a sign of life. So the more problems you have the more alive you are.” My addition to Norman’s quote would be, “if you don’t have any problems today maybe you are on the way out of here and you don’t know it yet.”
If you perceive our quotes to be some old philosophy of life, at least we are closer to speaking the truth. One thing you and I have both learned is that everyone has problems. Some have relationship problems, others financial, some career, others health, some social, others business. No one is immune to adversity in life. The key is to accept the issues, negatives, problems, situations (I don’t care what you call them) as part of the life’s process of becoming who you want to be. People destined to fail see themselves as victims and blame life for picking them. Winners, regardless of their position, status, age or circumstances see problems and adversity as a catalyst to becoming better, stronger, wiser, and more aware of the reality of their life.
Problems are not positive or negative, they are neutral. It isn’t what is happening in your life that matters it is how you choose to see it and what you do with it. Learn to see the negatives as loving teachers in your life, bringing you the opportunity to get a clearer vision of where you need attitude adjustments, improved thinking or better skills.
